A picture hangs in my office of the Guardians of the Galaxy. It was a thoughtful gift from my boss. She bought it because she knows I love the Guardians of the Galaxy but I am not sure she understands why. Many people ask me why I like them when they visit and the easiest answer is because they are Guardians. And this is true. My work team’s name is “Guardian” and we have the shirts and work method that prove it. But, there is a second deeper meaning though that resonates with me.
*Spoilers if you have not watched the first and second Guardians of the Galaxy movies.*
There is a line in the second Guardians movie in which Peter and Gamora are arguing over Peter’s newfound dad Ego. A brief quote follows:
Peter: “I finally found my family, don’t you understand that?”
Gamora: “I thought you already had”
There is so much emotion in those two statements you really need to watch the scene to understand but for the purpose of this blog it is sufficient to read the words.
In the first movie, the group forms a team to have the common goal of getting paid. Saving the galaxy was not their original intent, but it became their primary focus as the movie unfolded. Over the course of the movie, they reached accomplished something they never intended: their disjointed group became a family.
In my vocabulary family also means a tribe or clan.
I have searched all of my life to find my tribe.
I have a great blood family. This is not what I am talking about.
I mean friends that become a tribe. I thought I found it a few times. But it turns out when you don’t go to the same “church”, work at the same place, or don’t believe exactly like you did, you were not that close after all.
I have had many close calls, but nothing yet has lasted.
I do not believe I am the only one searching for my clan. I believe there are others. I will find them.
You can’t manufacture it, and as with the Guardians, I don’t believe we will realize it as it forms. Forming this tribe just happens naturally as we walk out our journeys together.
So the search goes on. And it is a search I will continue until I find my people.
I believe this final quote from Guardians sums it up nicely:
Peter Quill/Star-Lord: I look around at us and you know what I see? Losers… I mean like, folks who have lost stuff. And we have, man, we have, all of us. Homes, and our families, normal lives. And you think life takes more than it gives, but not today. Today it’s giving us something. It is giving us a chance.
Drax the Destroyer: To do what?
Peter Quill/Star-Lord: …To give a shit, for once and not run away